The difference between being a "fat man" and a "fat woman"

Posted on July 30, 2013 at 9:00 PM Comments comments (0)

This fantastic article by Michael Young on "The Rainbow Hub" helps to hilight an all too common issue for people who identify or are perceived as women who may also struggle with their weight. 

Sterotypes about people whose bodies do not fit into the idealised norm abound. If you weigh more than the average person (or sometimes, even when you ARE the average person) your body becomes "public property". It is considered acceptable for others to leer, pass judgement and make comments about your personality and your appearance, based purely on what they see.

This is particulalry difficult when other people ascribe a morality to a persons weight or appearance, deciding that somehow it is a "moral duty" for women to remain young, thin and beautiful at all times, and woe betide anyone who may choose (or be forced via their biology) to appear otherwise. 

It is important to note that Michael still experiences size-ism when passing as a man. However, when it is robbed of it's societal backing, Michael finds that it is nowhere near as "vehment" or as "pervasive" as it once was. 

The "lived experience" of sex and gender diversity

Posted on July 5, 2013 at 10:00 AM Comments comments (0)

Wanted to share this blog entry from "Head Above Water". Tommy spent three days dressing in women's clothing to see what kind of reactions he would get. His experience is a perfect example of a phenomenon called "Minority Stress Theory". 

I have been wanting to write about this for a while, and will hopefully have the chance to write a full blog entry on this eventually. In brief, minority Stress Theory is the theory that sexual minorities have higher rates of physical and mental illness because they face extra stress every day, just by existing.

This stress can be subtle and overt, like reading a magazine and seeing yet another example of heteronormativity, or being harassed on your way to work.

Tommy's experience showcases this experience beautifully. He felt ready to give up and give in after only three days. Imagine needing to deal with this for an entire lifetime! 

Coming Out Stress

Posted on March 27, 2013 at 4:10 AM Comments comments (0)

Reposting in solidarity this video from Ethan, a trans (Lebanese Muslim) man. Ethan is now 16 weeks on T, and talks about coming out to his family. If you want to post a nice message for him or repost this video in support, check him out on his Youtube Channel

Good luck Ethan :)

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Everything You Wanted To Know About Human Sexuality But Were Afraid To Ask

Posted on March 24, 2013 at 5:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Wanted to share this fantastic educational video from Hank Green -

Everything You Wanted To Know About Human Sexuality But Were Afraid To Ask

A succinct description of the different ways that we can describe human sexuality from biological sex to gender to sexual orientation. 

The Myth of Trans Regrets

Posted on February 2, 2013 at 7:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Hi all

It's been a while since I last updated the blog. I just wanted to take this opportunity to show you all this fantastic infographic from Transstudent Tumblr -

The Myth of Trans Regrets 

Some very valuabe information for anyone thinking of transitioning.

Survey for LGBTIQ/alternative sexualities in the UK

Posted on August 23, 2012 at 8:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Hi everyone!

Reposting for Joseph De Lappe at Pink Therapy - Joseph is a Kink Aware therapist in the UK, and is currently running a survey for the UK community -

Where do you go when your relationship(s) are in distress?

We want to reach LGB and T identified people, plus all the other GSD groups: people who identify as asexual, kinky, poly, swingers/those in The Lifestyle. Basically anyone who might feel that mainstream counselling or relationship therapy isn't for them.


All data is anonymous and confidential and cookies have been disabled for additional security. The survey link is


Should you want any further information, or have any comment to make, please feel to contact the researcher Joseph De Lappe